One of the most thrown around quotes in motivational speaking is “You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with”, attributed to Jim Rohn.
I have an interesting story… maybe you can relate.
A client of mine lost a significant amount of weight. As his transformation progressed, he started to notice changes in who he was spending time with.
Those friends who wanted to drink and go out all the time…he didn’t see them as much.
Those friends who were accepting and supportive of his new food choices and lifestyle…he saw them more.
This can be a tricky situation to navigate. You may have friends who make “those comments” that make you feel on edge when you’re around them. In all likelihood, they have nothing against you, they just don’t quite understand what it is you’re trying to do, and why it’s important to you to make those changes in your life.
By NO MEANS, do you need to cut these people out of your life. You might just need to compartmentalize these friends in your life. It sounds harsh, somewhat Spock like, I get that. This behaviour allows you to prioritize your needs when deciding who to spend time with.
You may very well still enjoy spending time with those friends who don’t seem to understand you new goals and lifestyles. You don’t need to kick those friends to the curb or completely cut them out!
Think about what you, and they, get out of the experience when you spend time together.
If you have friends who want to eat and drink, hang out with them when you are in a position to accept that you might not be sticking to your plan. Acknowledge that your nutrition and fitness journey may not be the topic du-jour when you hang out. And that’s ok! There’s a reason you became friends in the first place, so come back to those commonalities.
You may not need to cut people out as much as you need to create boundaries and prioritize what you want when you seek friends and create networks.